It took a few months for me to realize the importance of April + Ian time. I got so wrapped up in just being a mom, keeping this little baby alive, and I also think there's sort of the fear of judgement if you leave your child "too early" for a little escape. That has been a struggle for me and I probably pay it too much attention than I should. Last night, since my mom was in town, Ian and I snuck away for a quick post-work drink at Selwyn Pub. And later, after the baby went to bed, we went to go see Gone Girl, We didn't get home until 9:45 and didn't turn out the lights until 11:00, but it was so nice to have that time together. And of course we have full confidence in Camille's safety and wellbeing when she is with my mom. As an aside ... great movie.
Keys ... found 'em. They were in Ian's car console. After he spotted them, we both clearly remembered putting them there right before our hike Saturday morning. But we both completely forgot that we even did that! So scatterbrained.
I am a piler. And it drives my husband crazy. I am clean but I have far too many piles of things right now around the house. A pile of clothes to either sell or donate. A pile of mail to go through. And (ashamed to say so) some medical bills from Camille's birth that I still need to pay. I need to tackle those, it is just confusing because they send so many duplicate bills and I don't want to overpay the hospital (thinking a refund wouldn't likely happen). I need to sort them all out by visit date. I'm vowing to get that done by the end of this week. Period.
Workouts, they aren't happening. I am not waking up early, I am not going during my lunchbreak. And I just refuse to do any during the week after work while Camille is awake and could be hanging out with me. It's dark so early now so we can't even go on post-work walks. The weekends are about the only times I get walks in, but no strength training, no real cardio.
I'm in denial that Camille will turn six months old tomorrow. How in the world have we had this baby for half of a year? Saturday we will start solids and I'm really looking forward to that. But selfishly I'm nervous about having another daily "task" that will take away from our play time.
So there are my confessions. Can you relate?
I'm in denial that Camille will turn six months old tomorrow. How in the world have we had this baby for half of a year? Saturday we will start solids and I'm really looking forward to that. But selfishly I'm nervous about having another daily "task" that will take away from our play time.
So there are my confessions. Can you relate?
I feel you on the guilt thing. We're going out of town this weekend...just for one night. My daughter is 3 1/2 and my son is 15 months. It will be my first overnight away from them (aside from being away from her when I was in the hospital having him). I'm just now to the point that I feel ok leaving them overnight with MIL. That guilt was there for a long while though.
ReplyDeleteI didn't leave my oldest overnight until I was in the hospital having my second (she was 17months) - too long to have waited. I still struggle with carving out time for my husband and the guilt over the cost of date + sitter when there are other things we "need." Good luck with starting solids and fitting in time for exercise. It will happen, just cut yourself some slack.
ReplyDeleteThe time away from baby is always hard. Caleb is 17 months old now, and I still don't like leaving him - but we do make an effort to do it once in a while, because that husband and wife time is so important! I'm glad you and Ian were able to get away, even if just for a bit! And girl, if you figure out an effective way to exercise, do share. I have not yet figured out how to work that into my schedule. Caleb and I go walking most days, but that's about it!
ReplyDeleteYup, totally understand on the "another thing to do" checklist issue with solids. And I hate to tell you, but you're right. That's exactly what it is. It's adorable! And funny! But another task. We're doing solids at one feeding about five times a week, because sometimes I just want to cuddle or read a book with Henry (who nearly shares a birthday with Camille - he's May 16!) Most of the "work" in introducing solids comes from the clean up, so make sure you're not wearing work clothes when you feed her, or you just may get it sprayed all over you! ;)
ReplyDeleteTotally! The best is yet to come, I believe though :) Feeding solids will take time, but then she will learn how to feed herself and THAT is lovely! Tme back again. Our weekly date night is the best budget investment.... An investment in our marriage AND better parents and together parents for our children. Worth it. Such thoughtful reflections!! You are on such a great track for 6 months post baby! It usually takes me 9 ;) thanks agin for your beautiful blog! Love it!
ReplyDeleteAnd hurray for the keys! That is awesome :). We all know the feeling well!
ReplyDelete6 months already!! time is flying by way too fast. xo jillian - cornflake dreams
ReplyDeleteI can't even tell you how many times I have misplaced my keys. And they are usually in the hubby's glove box too!!!
ReplyDeleteI can totally relate to the "piles". Good luck going through those this weekend. I probably should do that too ;)
ReplyDeletei loved the keys pic on insta yseterday. yay!!
ReplyDeleteI worry about the lack of "us" time we'll get once Jack is here. I think it's a valid concern/worry but, what others have told me is that it's good we're even thinking/worried about it. So, you're on the right track... Sounds like y'all are figuring it out!
ReplyDeleteI'm a piler too and my husband hates it. Loved Gone Girl as well.
ReplyDeleteIt cracks me up that you're a piper. My husband is the same way and it drives ME crazy. He consistently has a pile of clothes that are in limbo... not clean - can't be put away... not dirty - he's going to wear them again. UNLESS!! I happen to start a load and then he wants to add them to that. It literally used to drive me insane but now I kinda laugh about it.
ReplyDeleteI also love that your little girl is named Camille. That's my mom's name and its not one that's heard very often.
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I can't believe Camille is 6 months old already! I, too, am a piler and it drives David nuts. I can't help it. I feel it's organized and clean for me! Good luck with sorting! xo
ReplyDeleteI'm a piler too- it drives my husband crazy!! I'm still working on trying to carve out good couple time and now that we have toe I know it's going to be harder. I'm hoping to try to get a monthly date night on the calendar but it's hard!
ReplyDeleteI can definitely relate to several of these... I have also recently been thinking about the importance of husband/wife time and not just all baby. We are going to have another date night and we just had one last weekend! And the workout thing... I was SO good about it during my pregnancy, but I just can't find the time right now with a babe. Another great thing about a baby, I've definitely become a piler. Even though I wasn't always one! :)
ReplyDeleteHooray for finding your keys! I misplaced (I'm a big believer in misplaced over lost!!) mine last month for a few days. They, too, were in Hubby's car.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, my kids are 3 and 5 and that guilt over leaving them never goes away. I've learned to deal with it and I know that I need time with my husband and girlfriends, but I always feel a little bit guilty every time I leave them. Good for you for getting away though! Happy parents make happy kiddos! :)
ReplyDeleteAlone time with my husband is so far and few between now that we have a seventh month old! I totally get what your saying. And hospital bills, totally on the same page with duplicates of everything and what goes where., who knew having a baby was that expensive?!?
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